In today’s fast-paced, hyperconnected world, we often see a strange phenomenon: people don’t talk to YOU-they talk to success. But what does this really mean?
It means people are drawn to titles, achievements, fame, money, followers — rather than to the person behind it all.
Let’s dive into why this happens, what it reflects about society, and how we can choose a better path.
1.Success Commands Attention
Success, by its very nature, stands out. A bestselling author, a billionaire entrepreneur, or a viral content creator — their achievements put them in the spotlight. People are more likely to pay attention to someone once the world has validated them.
It’s not always admiration — sometimes it’s curiosity, envy, or the hope of gaining something through association. But the attention is real.
“People listen when you win. They ignore when you’re trying.”
2. Society Values Results Over Journey
We live in a results-driven world. Struggles, effort, and persistence often go unnoticed unless they lead to something big. That’s why many people only show interest after someone “makes it”.
Think About It:
- You may have an incredibly talented artist next door — but no one cares until a gallery showcases their work.
- A startup founder may be ignored until they raise a million-dollar round.
It’s not personal. It’s just how society has been conditioned.
3. Ego and Self-Gain Play a Role
Often, people associate with successful individuals not because they genuinely connect, but because they want something — status, opportunity, or validation.
- A selfie with a celebrity.
- A comment under a viral influencer’s post.
- A handshake at a high-level networking event.
Sometimes it’s about “being seen” more than “truly connecting.”
4. Real People Are Overlooked
The downside? Genuine, talented, kind people get ignored just because they haven’t yet hit traditional markers of success.
And the sad truth is:
The same person who is ignored today for being “ordinary” will be celebrated tomorrow if they win something notable.
This shows we often don’t value people for who they are — we value what they represent.
5. The Fix: Talk to People, Not Just Success
If we want a more human, connected world, we need to shift how we relate to others
- Talk to the struggling artist, not just the superstar.
- Support the friend who’s starting out, not just when they’ve made it.
- Appreciate people for their character, not just their credentials.
True connection starts when we see worth in people, not just their wins.
Final Thoughts
People talk to success, not people — because success is loud, visible, and respected. But real relationships are built in the quiet, when no one’s watching.
The challenge is to recognize value before the spotlight does.
So the next time you’re tempted to connect only with someone who’s already “made it,” ask yourself:
Would you have spoken to them before the world did?
That’s the real test of connection