There was a boy who always needed someone around. As a child, he clung to his mother’s hand for safety. In school, he surrounded himself with friends just to feel seen. As he grew older, he searched for love—not because he felt whole, but because he couldn’t bear being alone. Silence made him uneasy. In the quiet, his thoughts grew louder, and he was forced to face parts of himself he tried to avoid. So he kept chasing people, conversations, distractions—anything that made him feel less alone. But one day, he found himself truly alone. No messages. No voices. Just him and the stillness. And for the first time, he didn’t run from it. He stayed. In that moment, he realized he had been seeking love not from fullness, but from emptiness. And maybe, just maybe, learning to sit with that emptiness was the beginning of real love.
“Loneliness is when you are not comfortable with yourself. Solitude is when you are comfortable with yourself.”
🌿 We Seek Love and Acceptance… Because We Fear Being Alone
From the moment we are born, we crave connection.
A mother’s warmth. A friend’s smile. A lover’s touch.
These things make us feel real, seen, and safe.
But beneath this craving, there is often a quiet fear:
The fear of being alone with ourselves.
Of sitting in silence… with no one to impress.
No one to comfort us.
Just us… and our thoughts.
That’s why, so often, we chase love not out of fullness…
but out of emptiness.
🧘♂️ Loneliness Isn’t the Problem — Our Resistance to It Is
Loneliness isn’t the enemy.
It is a doorway. A teacher. A mirror.
But instead of listening to it, we often:
- Run to relationships.
- Beg for attention.
- Pretend to be someone we’re not, just to be liked.
Why?
Because we never learned how to be alone without feeling unloved.
🪔 When You Sit With Your Loneliness, You Discover Yourself
If you can sit, just for a while, with your loneliness –
without running, distracting, or blaming…
You begin to discover something quiet and sacred:
That your worth is not dependent on someone else’s eyes.
That your heart can hold itself.
That you are never truly alone – only unfamiliar with your own soul.
💬 So Yes — You Are Right…
We often seek love and acceptance because we haven’t learned to make peace with our own presence.
But here’s the beautiful truth:
Once you become your own friend…
Once you fall in love with the silence within…
Then every relationship becomes a gift, not a need.
Love becomes something to share, not something to chase.